I want to start off by saying when making a decision to bring a person back into your life you need to weigh your options, figure out why you had a falling out with this person. Ask yourself have you ever dealt with any betrayal from this individual or heartache and pain. If so ask yourself are you prepared to go through that again. I say that because while you may have grown from the experience your former friend may have not. With my situation my friend and I let a small debate turn personal, words were exchanged during the heat of the moment, I said some things he said some things but his words weren't enough for me to walk away from a 13 year friendship.
Once you are 110% sure that this individual deserves a space in your life, I say jump right out the window. If this is a TRUE friend, don't guard yourself show your heart, show your vulnerability, show that you care. I used an open forum TWITTER not caring who knew or who questioned how I felt. expressing "I MISS YOU" I mentioned his sister and his nephew because I had reached out to them on his birthday to make sure that he recived my wishes so I wanted to remind him of the effort I had put out"
At the end of the day Life is short, too short to lose REAL friends and too short to keep FAKE ones around, we all have to be able to judge someones character before making a decision on whether a person deserves to be in our lives it will eliminate having to put them out of your life later...
I hope I was able to help you on your journey lady, make the best decision for yourself... PEACE
Well said! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Dee...
ReplyDeleteWell my situation is a little different. But I still feel like you can help me. Instead of me removing a friend from my life wither it's temporarily or for good, I'm actually loosing my good friends. What should I do. We haven't gotten into any thing major , we are just growing apart. &' I don't want to lose them. SUGGESTIONS?
ReplyDeleteWell Taisha I will start by saying that when your dealing with REAL FRIENDS no matter how much you all spend apart when you get back together it will feel like you just saw them yesterday. Samantha and Monique are two of my greatest friends, but during our college days we all went our separate ways it seems like we may have seen each other once or twice during those four years of school but as you know Sam and I are like glue today. Friends grow apart and drift back together. I will say this those that you may see as your good friends now may take different paths in life than you do those paths will certainly determine where your friendship lies. Shyah and I both met our best friends during our college days, not saying to write off your old friend just saying keep your heart open to new ones. In the mean time try to link up with your friends every other weekend to keep the friendship alive.
ReplyDeleteOkay . Thanks for the advice . It's ALWAYS great and i will make effort to do so :) thanks LEA .
ReplyDelete@Taisha ummm that would be LEAH with an H o_O
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