- I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
- We had our first argument last night and he said a lot of cruel things
- that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean to say the
- things he said - because he sent me flowers today.
- I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
- Last night he threw me into a wall and then started to choke me.
- It seemed like a nightmare but you wake up from nightmares to find
- that they aren't real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
- I know he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
- I got flowers today. And it wasn't Valentines Day or any other special
- day. Last night he beat me and threatened to kill me.
- Makeup and long sleeves didn't hide the cuts and bruises this time.
- I couldn't go to work because I didn't want anyone to know
- But I know he is sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
- I got flowers today and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.
- Last night he beat me again and it was much worse than all the other
- times. If I leave him what will I do? How will I take care of the kids?
- What about money? I'm afraid of him and too scared to leave him!
- But he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.
- I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
- It was the day of my funeral.
- Last night he finally killed me. I was beaten to death.
- If only I would have gathered enough courage and strength to leave him.
- So I got flowers today - for the very last time.
~Author Unknow
-L. Janell
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Give me flowers when I can smell them...
The other day my guy asked me "what was my biggest fear" and I began to explain to him my fear of being alone... Not alone as in a 50 year old woman who has yet to find love and who has no children nope not that kind of "alone". About one week ago a story broke of a women losing her parents and her 3 daughters in a fire... That's the kind of alone I fear the lost of all of your loved ones in a split second, their all here today and gone tomorrow. That alone when there is no one around to live for, there is no one that I love to comfort me. But yesterday I was approached by an associate of mine who is living her own nightmare and I realize that what she is experiencing day to day is actually a fear of mine. A fear of the man you love simply coming home. The fear of not doing something the way he wants it... The fear of your two small sons repeating the cycle. Yes DOMESTIC ABUSE! As I listened to this young woman speak I became more and more enraged knowing that had I been in her shoes I would have my father beat the living sh!t out of him. I would pack up and I would leave, I would take him for full custody and child support and make it so that his life was a living hell. But she seemingly doesn't have the same options that I have or maybe she is just ignoring the many signs of escape as she keeps returning to this man... I pray that her wake up call doesn't come when she can NOT wake up.
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This made me cry... I hope no one I know gets caught in a vicious cycle and everyone in this cycle finds enough courage inside to leave before they receive flowers for the last time..
ReplyDeleteI literally had chills running through me as I read this Post. My heart bleeds for that young woman and her innocent children. God give her strength to wake up before its too late and see with open eyes that this can only get worse and the detriment shes causing her kids as well as her self is not worth a man(or lack there of). There seems to always be some deep rooted reason when woman stay in abusive relationships. And I dont knw this young woman but I hope that if she doesnt already, she gets a strong relationship with God.
ReplyDelete@Dana I pray for this girl to seek guidance and clarity on her situation. I pray that God grants her the strengthen to walk away. Its a pretty scary battle that she is fighting and I pray that no one close to me will ever have to go through this...
ReplyDelete@SheesMsHill I think at times women who find themselves depending on their abuser financially find it hard to walk away. At times they accept the abuse at home, in exchange for the right to say "WE ARE A FAMILY" or to even keep a roof over their head. Its pretty sad and scary but very true.
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